I met my ex last year and he told me he was a recovering addict currently taking subutex. I eventuallly found out that he had been prescribed subutex for 7 years. He was put on a reduction script when he moved in with me, (at this time I did not know how long he had been on it for) and has since relapsed whilst supposedly taking subbies and then once clucking off subbies he has as far as I am aware not had a day were he has not taken anything. I tried everything to help him, believing him when he told me he did not want to take opiates anymore. He is in his 40’s and turns out he has been misusing herion for 20 years. I do truely love him but due to the lies and anger/ depression he suffers at times I felt truely drained and also have a couple of kids who I felt were beginning to suffer being around someone with such extreme mood changes plus the arguments we had. He blamed me for the arguments and said I had anger issues. He is a lovely guy if only the problems with his herion abuse could be resolved. He works, so money is not the problem. The lies, the lack of being able to think how I may feel occassionally due to his actions, his lack of any sort of deep feelings for me and the kids and his inability to look towards the future makes me feel frustrated. I like to have fun with a partner but don’t feel like I’m on his level. I am completely heartbroken and even after throwing him out and telling him it is completely over I still cant seem to get through this very easily. I want to talk with him to see if he will seek help and then maybe we can rescue our relationship but his lies and cuntish attitude have just been so awful that I dont know if I could ever believe him anymore.Should I just say goodbye, also I told him I would tell his family and he said if I did he will kill me. I feel I should tell his family. His ex is a user as he got her into it.
#1 by johnny121 on April 30, 2010 - 11:23 pm
Should you take back a man who threatens to kill you.
Hmmmm. Let’s think about this.
I’m gonna go with “NO”
Let him get help on his own time. When he’s cleaned up his act, you could think about giving him another chance. But don’t OFFER that as a carrot. The choice to get help and get his life together has to be his.
#2 by Marina on May 1, 2010 - 12:07 am
He isn’t available for a relationship. Promises mean nothing, so don’t take him back based on that. And if he threatens to kill you, I would not tell his family–you have children who need you. I would take his threat very seriously.