When I first found out I felt numb, frantic, helpless, betrayed, like I was going to die. All of a sudden I realized why she had been being hateful to me and pushing me away. She didn’t want me to know. She has a 12 yr old daughter and an 8 yr old son and I can’t bear them being around this situation. I have said nothing to her & I don’t want to see the other woman. I know she fell into this because her husband neglected her. What can I do? This is not how I raised her. I can’t bear for anyone to know. I feel like my grandchildren need to be rescued.